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I’m at the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah this week and it’s quite an event. There are the obviously beautiful people like Kate Bosworth, Emily Blunt, Taylor Swift and Ireland’s own Eve Hewson (daughter of Bono and Ali Hewson) walking around but they pale in comparison to the amazing indie films on offer. Today I saw The Invisible War, a groundbreaking documentary investigating the epidemic of rape in the U.S. military against women and men.

When Amy Ziering, the producer of The Invisible War, kindly offered up a ticket I was delighted. Then I went home and Googled the movie…90 minutes about rape? To say I was concerned about attending the film is a huge understatement. I quite literally didn’t want to go. Thankfully, however, I did. This is an amazing, shocking, sad, powerful and hopeful film. Please click here to see the preview.

It opens with a few light-hearted vintage military recruitment ads aimed at women. These are followed by clips of women talking about why they chose to enlist. Quickly, the interviews turn serious, and within minutes of starting we learn that each woman (and one man) in the film is a survivor of rape at the hands of a comrade.

Shockingly the following stats unfold: the U.S. Department of Defense estimates that as many as 16,150 service members were sexually assaulted in 2009; at least 20 percent of service-women and 1 percent of men have experienced sexual trauma while serving (which is twice the rate for the civilian population); that only 8 percent of sexual assault cases in the U.S. military are prosecuted and 2% result in convictions. The final shock is the extremely disturbing statement from the Dept. of Defense that rape is considered “an incident to military service”.

Really…”an incident”?! Since when is rape an incident to any career choice? Defense Secretary Leon Panetta said recently “one sexual assault is one to many”. Here. Here. Now, what’s being done about it?!

For The Invisible War’s main subject Kori Cioca, not enough. The class-action law suit she and her fellow survivors took against Donald Rumsfeld, the former Secretary of Defense, was dismissed in 2011. She has been denied necessary medical attention from the Veterans Administration for the surgical treatment of her jaw which was dislocated by her rapist. She and her family have had to suffer the public airing of a very private trauma in order to receive any justice…and that justice is coming too slowly. If there is a silver lining to Kori going public it is that, as a direct result of The Invisible War being screened this week during the Sundance Film Festival, someone has come forward and offered to pay for her much needed surgery. The estimated cost is upwards of $50,000.

The generosity of the anonymous couple is wonderful but it is not enough – Kori is only one victum. To help the others, and the ones yet to come, we must help bring about a change by taking action. Please, get involved in one of the following ways:

1. Sign and share a petition supporting the STOP Act and the Holley Lynn James Act 2012. It takes less than two minutes to do.

2. See The Invisible War, tell your friends about it or host a screening party.

3. Text NOTINVISIBLE to 313131 to stay informed as to how to bring this issue to Washington.

4. Watch your local PBS listing for The Invisible War which will be showing in 2012/2013 on Independent Lens.

There’s one last thing we can do but it’s a long shot…Amy Ziering jokingly asked if anyone in our audience knew of a way to get this film to President Obama. If you believe in six degrees of separation then this should be possible. Today, I asked a designer friend of mine, who knows someone close to Michelle Obama, if she could help get this film before the First Lady. We’ll see what happens. If everyone tries, maybe together we can be successful! Please help.

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The girls and I have just come from seeing Cameron Crowe’s new movie We Bought a Zoo. The film is based on a memoir by an Englishman named Benjamin Mee. It stars actors Matt Damon and Scarlett Johansson and is a feel good movie that makes you remember that despite the gloomy economy (or whatever else may be getting you down) there are many reasons for which to be thankful. Seems a good way to start the New Year, don’t you think?

Most people start their New Year by giving something up or promising to do something differently. Well, I’m starting 2012 by counting my blessings. So here are the top 10 things I’m thankful for:

1. My lovely Irish husband

2. Our two sweet girls

3. Our good health

4. The roof over our head

5. Not going hungry

6. Having (lots of) friends

7. Knowing how blessed we are

8. Believing in God, faith, miracles, love

9. Having hope

10. Being part of a large family (origin and marriage)

As you can see, my list is quite simple. Sometimes simple is best. If you made a list of the things you were thankful for, what would be on it? Keep in mind, the point of the exercise is not to be creative and puff yourself up but to stop, take stock and appreciate what you’ve really got right now. Have you got a list?  If so, write it down or recite it in your head. You can even buy a Gratitude App and keep track for the entire year. In fact, that’s what I’m going to do…I’m going to use the journal my daughters bought me for Christmas and write down at least five things each day I am thankful for. Supposedly, people who regularly keep a Gratitude Journal increase their happiness by up to 25% over those who do not.

Imagine…25% more happiness just for making a daily list. Care to join me? In fact, how about this…be the first to join me and I’ll send you a Gratitude Journal of your very own. How’s that for a New Year challenge? Think about it. Send me a list of the five things your thankful for today. The first person to write-in will win the giveaway. Good luck and athbhliain faoi mhaise daoibh (Irish for “happy new year”).

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